Shut up, suit up, and show up. That’s the life advice Andrew Huberman relays from James Hollis, an 84-year-old psychotherapist, in his conversation with Stephen Bartlett on The Diary of a CEO:

He said, “Look, there are three things you’ve got to do every day.”

“First, shut up.” And I’m thinking, I thought this was going to be some nice, gentle analyst, and he goes, “Shut up.” There’s always somebody suffering more than you. You have to have a gratitude practice.

The second thing: “Suit up.” You’re not going to do well at anything in life unless you prepare. Get up in the morning, take care of your health, shower, brush your teeth, get organized.

And then: “Show up.” Happy people fulfill outward roles for the world. Father, mother, sister, brother, teacher, mechanic, engineer, podcaster, whatever. There’s no human being who doesn’t have to do things for the world. You can’t freeload.

But then he said there’s another piece to it. If you carry on like that for ten, twenty, thirty years, you can end up quite happy. But most of the time, if people only do those things, they end up pretty miserable.

Once a day, you need to get out of role fulfillment. Out of preparation, out of suiting up, out of trying to be more grateful. You still need to do all that, but you need to step outside of it and go into what he called exiting the stimulus-response mode of being. That could be sitting quietly in meditation. It could be drawing, or listening to music. You’re not trying to accomplish anything. You’re just letting your unconscious mind feed you information about your deepest heart’s desires.